You Is

I really love the line from "The Help" where Miss Aibileen Clark tells the young Skeeter Phelan
"You  is kind, you is smart, you is important"

Truer words were never spoken and apply to every one.

So often I hear people put down or find fault in others: well we all have faults, even I do

Who cares? When we/I stop looking at faults but what's good in people, I can't help but keep on seeing and acting on that feeling.

At least once a month on Facebook I post something like "Did you know I love & care about you and I do mean YOU?"

I cant say how many times I get a message "I needed to hear that today"

You don't have to say it outright but try to think it about others today

"You is kind, you is smart, you is important"

I'm 18% closer to my goal, please help someone who is IMPORTANT live a healthy life

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Twelve

"That's the real trouble with the world: too many people grow up. They forget. They don't remember what it's like to be twelve years old." -- Walt Disney

Oddly, a famous or well known Bible verse from Cornintians says

"When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned like a child. When I grew up, I put away childish things"

I see the validity  of both: I pay my own bills (not like a child), my home is my own(not like a child) while I dream in color of a world without fear, with a life without disease (both more adult) while I HOPE we all live out some dream we have had.  It's never to late to learn .Heck at almost 50, I'm working on my second Masters degree!

All that and I still ride a bicycle to get around!!

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Four

Four simple ideas

1. Don’t allow disappointments, difficulties and obstacles affect your moods and state of mind.
    Welcome them though and realize they CAN become a lesson

2. Refuse and reject negative thinking. Either 
    Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts, or engage yourself in some activity that will divert your     attention from the negative thoughts.
   
3. Don’t allow what people think and say affect your mind and mood.

4. Associate with people who bring something of value into your life. Avoid people who sap your energy and enthusiasm. If you can’t avoid them, learn how stay detached when you are in their company


Remember, the choice to be happy is our own.

YOU have the control over your thoughts, that's right YOU!

Sweep

Now & then it's good to give the home a good sweeping.  Go for those cobwebs in the corner: under the chairs in the living room; all around the dining room and right by the front door.

Just in case you were thinking I don't pick up messes, espcially by the front door where because I do: it's just a good hard sweeping then mopping (or Swifjet as it were) is in order.

That's a good lesson for many parts of life too.  I looked at my Facebook account & found "friends" I hadn't talked to since we both confirmed. After sending messages saying something akin to 'How's it going?" after no response,  I did a clean sweep.

Thoughts work the same way. Recently I heard t joke with one MAJOR problem: It dehumanizes people so I'll never tell it.

People who share opposing views from mine are welcome but when conversation turns nasty, I do a clean sweep.  Same thing with clutter around my desk and such.

I'm doing a clean sweep, making room for new,up beat affirming friends & events

Wanna join me in sweeping out the house?

Love Yourself

Self love doesn't require a crowd or a partner, a plan or a purpose. Some of the best loving is just being with okay with you.

When I'm really down,  it's remembering I'm overall a great guy.  Although I'm not working in the field I studied for what I do helps people create ways to make wise choices & live better (ideally)

Not too long ago I met a wonderful man & we planned a future. Turns out he's not who he said he was and I can honestly say there were feelings of hurt: I'm beyond those now and enjoying new people

If your single, embrace it. If partnered, show that love often.   In the end it's all about love & know I love YOU my readers.

I REALLY love those who can donate to my efforts in helping others on this years SMART Ride
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Bridge

"When you're weary, feeling small: when tears are in your eyes, I will dry them off. - I'm on your side...
Like a bridge over troubled waters, I will lay me down"

A few weeks ago a friend of mine had a stroke.  Oddly he was out of the hospital in only a few days and trying, really trying to manage on his own.  The few times I saw him out and about he was wobbly and using a cane.   He asked a support group for help tonight "I need help with simple things like house work: I mean I can sweep the floor but not bend over to pick up the dust."

Some people just stared at him as he pleaded for help.  A few offered suggestions and one man walked over to offer some aid.

Have you been there on either side of the equation? I know I have.

It's in how we/I act or ask that being HUMAN comes out.

"When evening falls so hard I will comfort you"

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P.S. thanks Simon and Garfunkel for the song!

Approval

I don't recall when or where I first heard this but it fits me to the 'T'

"What you think of me is none of my business"

Let that sink in for  a moment if you've never heard it before.

In my past I let how I looked, what I wore, where I went get dictated by others  much like my childhood

Not sure when it hit me but it's MY LIFE, MY CHOICES & my own happiness.

You are not in need of an FDA "Seal of Approval"  though I look for that AAA label for my car, thats it


My friend, your value is approved just by being YOU

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