Thursday, March 23, 2017

Inhale Goodness

Right now in the USA there is so much angst over political issues. We're a country strongly divided

Odd that while at work Wednesday I heard someone from Mexico as he exited customs after a cruise "I LOVE AMERICA"

I am  going to breath in his excitement in all things and exhale the bullshit

You can too. Trust me this will help us all feel better

Friday, March 10, 2017

Slow down

We've all heard "stop and smell the roses"   Easier said that done you/i may think. With so much going on it's best to keep abreast of the latest, the most unusual, the unique.

Slow down, breath and accept the world will still turn without our worry.

Since I work from home a lot, being a student does that I find having soft music on in background slows down the busy sounds of where I live.

No TV right before bed. That ones's harder but oh so worth it.

Talk with friends, NO TEXTING or tweeting.  Call or see in person those we want to share or joys with.

Slow down, enjoy the simple

Monday, March 6, 2017

Negative Voices

Ignore the Negative Noises

Lately I've been feeling a bit down in the dumps. A few things have happened at work to make me feel like nothing’s going my way. Those thoughts can be overwhelming

I've learned a few tricks to overcome negativity I'll share here

  • Just because some of our thoughts are negative doesn’t mean we have to listen to them
  • The truth is, you are not your thoughts.

Most negative thoughts are not based on reality. So ask yourself, “Is that thought 100% true?” Usually this will help to break down the meaning of the thought.

Instead of finding ways to escalate the thought, do the opposite and look for ways to prove that the thought is not true.

You are not your thoughts. Resist the urge to beat yourself up when you catch yourself thinking negatively. Everyone has negative thoughts from time to time. Just be aware and choose not to listen to all of them so you can get on with living your life.

Monday, January 16, 2017


"The words of a wise man's mouth win him favor, but the lips of a fool consume him."

Did you really say that? Did I really say that?  

Words are wonderful, they are one of many ways people communicate, share ideas, express thoughts, lay out plans, sing songs, tell stories and teach.

When used express feelings they can evoke emotions.  The phrase "I love you" often emotes a joy

"I despise that image" often emotes angst. 

As a queer man I hear/read other queer folk using words against each other. Those same words that non queer people use against us.  Why use them?  Remember "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it"?  I do and really try to live by that idea

Let's all (yes that means me, too) think before speaking or acting. 

See how affirming with life and each other can be.  Use the power of words for good

Monday, January 9, 2017

Not Others

It's been six months since the divorce papers were signed.  Since then I've been back to seeking. Call it dating but for me it was/is testing waters. Blindly I forgot that I am full person of worth, just as you are. I re learned someone else idea or opinion of me is not mine.

Today's mantra, say it with me "No one but me defines my happiness, not others"

Thursday, January 5, 2017

succseed or not

When Wesley wrote "I don't care what you do... It's how you treat others" {paraphrased} I've tried to live by this.  We're all on different journeys, odd paths, roads less taken.  Someone you know is ill, someone else passed exams with high marks, someone else's bicycle broke down. Another won big $ in lottery.  These do change what's going on in my life, why worry?  
I'm not in competition with you, I'd rather support you on your journey. Hold you when down or celebrate the WOW things.  Bottom line, lets be happy together

Monday, January 2, 2017


We were talking about the new year, the old year, changes and expectations

I don't recall who said it but "Don't look at the hole, look at the whole donut"

That made sense . When I see what's around me and not just the immediate I know that there is more to be aware of, more to enjoy, more to savior

Let's look at what fills us with flavor, that whole donut