Monday, January 16, 2017


"The words of a wise man's mouth win him favor, but the lips of a fool consume him."

Did you really say that? Did I really say that?  

Words are wonderful, they are one of many ways people communicate, share ideas, express thoughts, lay out plans, sing songs, tell stories and teach.

When used express feelings they can evoke emotions.  The phrase "I love you" often emotes a joy

"I despise that image" often emotes angst. 

As a queer man I hear/read other queer folk using words against each other. Those same words that non queer people use against us.  Why use them?  Remember "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it"?  I do and really try to live by that idea

Let's all (yes that means me, too) think before speaking or acting. 

See how affirming with life and each other can be.  Use the power of words for good

Monday, January 9, 2017

Not Others

It's been six months since the divorce papers were signed.  Since then I've been back to seeking. Call it dating but for me it was/is testing waters. Blindly I forgot that I am full person of worth, just as you are. I re learned someone else idea or opinion of me is not mine.

Today's mantra, say it with me "No one but me defines my happiness, not others"

Thursday, January 5, 2017

succseed or not

When Wesley wrote "I don't care what you do... It's how you treat others" {paraphrased} I've tried to live by this.  We're all on different journeys, odd paths, roads less taken.  Someone you know is ill, someone else passed exams with high marks, someone else's bicycle broke down. Another won big $ in lottery.  These do change what's going on in my life, why worry?  
I'm not in competition with you, I'd rather support you on your journey. Hold you when down or celebrate the WOW things.  Bottom line, lets be happy together

Monday, January 2, 2017


We were talking about the new year, the old year, changes and expectations

I don't recall who said it but "Don't look at the hole, look at the whole donut"

That made sense . When I see what's around me and not just the immediate I know that there is more to be aware of, more to enjoy, more to savior

Let's look at what fills us with flavor, that whole donut

Thursday, December 29, 2016


Someone wrote "It's not about where you are but whom your with"

I like that, I like that a lot. It goes along with "a person can be known by the company kept"

I choose to be around, listen to, read from and about people who do good, act kindly and share goodness

Someone else shared this on Facebook today, how appropriate

Lets join in raising our standards. 

Monday, December 19, 2016


My roommate comes from a different faith and we both agree that all God wants to share and from us is peace and love.  I used a phrase "all roads lead to Rome" to which he replied 'can that mean all roads lead to Mecca ?

We agreed that we though small in comparison to the wider world saw that even a drop, each drop in the ocean is needed to make it whole and complete.

Much like the starfish on the sand story, I'll continue to do good, seek goodness and share such good news/actions.

In my little city it may appear I'm one drop of water. A drop that can fill lives

Let's be that one drop in someones life

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

One More

Birthdays or as my friend Kieth agrees "born days', anniversary's, etc all happen each year.

What makes our being born so special enough to share salutations?

I think it's our communal way of realizing our morality and we  made it another year.

When we're younger aging is fun, growth oriented. Past 30 or so it's a landmark

Mid 50's like me it's "Im still here?"   - Well gosh darn it i am and your here to remark how I've lived through failures, successes, pain, divorce and still a new location, new friends, new loves and new employment

I'll try to celebrate being born each day as each day is a gift.   Lets share our gifts of goodness
At least ONE MORE time