Friday, May 25, 2018

Negating Negativity

My friend E. Scott does not dress in normative male clothing.  Semi goth os more the style. He lives in rural America, a city where KKK has members. While riding a city bus, some guy kept taunting E Scott.  The last comment made was "does that bother you, princess?"

E. Scott replied in his usual calm demeanor "What makes you think that you matter?"

People on the bus cheered my friends response

Dud you ever hear
Your opinion of me is none of my business." (Cribbed from Mark Twain)

I choose to have a positive mind

Tuesday, May 22, 2018


As an open HIV positive gay man I've learned some people think  (read accuse) me of having no to low standards.    1st, being queer is not about sex, 2nd HIV is a disease, not a way of life

In all things I strive for honesty, compassion, trust and affirming life
You who have read my blog from the beginning may have figured out I'm a 12 step person.

None if those speaks of lowering standards.

 My question or charge  for my readers:  Do you maintain standards and do our best to live up to them

Wednesday, May 16, 2018


Maybe its a spring feeling, I've seen people working hard to impress someone.  A few people actually.
Perhaps its due to New Years resolutions not being realized. Perhaps its graduations or just rain (our southern Florida rainy season is starting).

For me, I'm not impressing anyone but me. I plan to keep feeling uplifted.

Thursday, May 3, 2018

Safer Together

"It is said, again and again, that the gazelle that is eaten is the one outside the herd or at the edge of the herd, not one in the middle of the herd."  - Bill W

One reason I like having a roommate is just knowing someone else who cares about the place, is there.  

My job keeps me around people and that's GOOD in my line of work

Yes, there are times that I appreciate solitude too.  Its keeping a safe balance that brings peace

Thursday, April 19, 2018



I heard a phrase I really like. It came up during a conversation on being perfect. I know I'm far from perfect yet I strive to do my best.  When that fails, and it does fail I'll remind me of this

Pause the crazy; it doesn't have to be perfect 

Tuesday, April 10, 2018


Shootings, weather, safety and general angst seem to be "the order of the day."

Knowing that my happiness is defined by me, I try to find peace..Easier said than dine, I know

Tuesday, January 30, 2018

Embrace Differances

None of us share 100% compatibility. I find those different aspects, outlooks refreshing
Goodness knows I've tried to find friends just like me or mold others to meet MY lifestyle, etc

Have you ever tried to teach a fish how to fly? One of the characteristic of a fish is to swim, not to fly. And the fish is not interested to fly. So do not bother the fish and respect the fish as it is

Thanks to an unexpected friend, Maccoy Cervantes Moreno for today's idea