Values over Interests

 

Make sure you share similar values (not interests)

Now that I'm more serious about dating at 57 I'm taking a good look at my values. Interests like going to the beach, museums. theater, etc are just that. 

Values such as trust, caring

for others, being 'penny wise" are what will make a good lasting relationship

Does this make sence to you? 

It's ok to feel that way

 With all going on at times I feel helpless.   Helpless leads to feeling sad.

Covid, the economy, US politics, jobs, etc can all weigh me/us down and that's OK

Ok as long as I don't stay sad.  But when we feel that way it's healing to sit in a puddle of sadness

Just don't swim in the puddle and allow yourself to get out

Better Than?

"𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦"

Some one said this to me recently and  I was in awe.  This person must know me since most of my life is about being better to me.  

So many people argue with strangers about politics,the weather, parenting and such

I/we can only do whats right for ourseleves

Do you feel the same ?

 

Try it, you might like it

So  many us, myself included, are doing things we/I never thought I'd be doing. Zoom meetings, masks even in banks, hand sanitizer galore. 

There are those home improvement projects. I promise I'll move that bookshelf!!

We'll here we are several months into the pandemic and I'm trying new things at work

I created a form that makes getting medicines from pharmacies easier to track

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ― Lao Tzu

What have you tried new?

See it, Say it, Live it

This blog is about keeping an upbeat outlook and affirming attitude. I/we try to say those things and have those thoughts that bring peace, joy and happiness.  

When I want to believe something or learn something I see it, say it and live it

During my recovery from a stroke I KNEW life would go on and  I choose to do all I could to return to normal   I said it, wrote it down then did all i  could to get better. That meant therapy to walk, read and write

Right now is there some thing you/we are changing or just want a healthy status quo?

See it, Say it, Live it

Repeat these to be a mantra

It Is Well

There is a song in a Christian tradition "It Is Well With My Soul"

When peace like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to know
It is well, it is well, with my soul.

Refrain
It is well, (it is well),
With my soul, (with my soul)

These past several weeks have been surprisingly  busy with work, a house guest, setting up my  non profit, family issues.  Add the  stress of the COVID 19 pandemic sometimes life can be a bit much

That's when I pause and realize I/we've been through some of this before and my worry wont change any outcome.   Using tools I've shared  with you here before I remind myself "It is well"

Regular readers are aware I use mantras.They are repetitive phrases that reaffirm thoughts

"It  is well with my soul" is this months mantra.  Do you have one or any? Do they work for you?

Please comment in the space listed

 

I am not worthy

One of the most damaging beliefs is "I am not worthy". 

• It lowers your vibe. 
• It makes you settle for less. 
• It makes you unconsciously sabotage yourself when you receive more than you think you deserve.
• And worse of all, it gradually turns you into a water-down version of yourself.

Please know you ARE worthy and I am too and we are all goood enough!!